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Ghosting is a term that is typically used when referring to casual dating. Surprisingly, ghosting has become more common in long-term relationships. This is because more men are choosing to just disappear instead of breaking up or having tough conversations about the relationship. Many men just seem to find it easier to cut ties and run in the opposite direction without any explanation. Ultimately, this leaves their partner confused and heartbroken. So, why is it happening?
1. The Rise of Dating App Culture
Many people meet on dating apps these days. Sure, it’s made it easy to meet new people, but it has also impacted how people feel about commitment. There are seemingly endless options on these apps, which makes many men feel less inclined to work through things when conflict arises in a relationship. After all, there’s someone better just a click away, right?
2. Fear of Emotional Vulnerability
A lot of men have trouble being emotionally vulnerable. This is due to societal pressure to be stoic and not openly express your feelings. However, being in a long-term relationship requires some level of emotional investment. Unfortunately, many men are choosing to ghost their partners rather than confront their emotions. They’d rather run from conflict altogether.
3. Changing Views on Marriage and Commitment
Societal expectations play a huge role in how men act in relationships. That said, standards are shifting and traditional commitments aren’t as appealing for some people as they used to be. Not as many men want to settle down. In truth, their personal freedom takes priority over any kind of romantic commitment.
4. Overwhelm from Relationship Expectations
Relationships today come with high emotional and mental demands, which some men find exhausting. Partners expect consistent communication, emotional availability, and personal growth, which can feel like too much pressure. Some men withdraw when they feel they can’t meet these expectations, instead of discussing their struggles. The rise of self-care culture has also encouraged prioritizing personal well-being, sometimes at the expense of a partner’s feelings.
5. Influence of Social Media and Digital Communication
Social media has undoubtedly had a huge impact on the world, especially where dating is concerned. My wife and I reconnected on Facebook nearly 10 years ago after not seeing each other for several years. While it has made it easier to connect, it’s just as easy to disconnect and ghost people. This is especially true if the relationship exists primarily in the digital space (long distance relationships or newly dating). Unfollowing, blocking, or ignoring messages has become a socially accepted way to cut ties.
6. The Appeal of a Drama-Free Exit
At the end of the day, ghosting is an easy way out for most men who choose this exit. You don’t have to have any kind of uncomfortable conversations. It could be completely drama free and they won’t have to deal with any of the aftermath of a breakup. In some cases, he might not even feel guilty.
Can Ghosting Be Stopped?
It seems like the societal standards around dating are changing and ghosting has become a normal part of it. It is important to encourage open communication in your relationships and hold your partner accountable. In the end, ghosting doesn’t really solve anything. It will only leave your partner with emotional wounds and questions. So, can ghosting be stopped? Yes, but it will take effort to ensure the future of dating doesn’t look so bleak.
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Drew Blankenship is a former Porsche technician who writes and develops content full-time. He lives in North Carolina, where he enjoys spending time with his wife and two children. While Drew no longer gets his hands dirty modifying Porsches, he still loves motorsport and avidly watches Formula 1.
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